My friend Kirby and I love to go to movies at a cozy old-time theater in downtown Santa Cruz, not far from where we live. Locals refer to it as ‘The Nick’ (for Nickelodeon). Afterwards we walk over to the Palomar Hotel to a cute little Mexican cafe for tortilla chips and salsa and homemade tacos that are the best ever–in our opinion.
This outing has become at least a monthly event that we look forward to. It’s fun to share chit-chat before and after and take away some inspiring or humorous ‘lessons’ from the movie.
A couple of weeks ago we viewed “The Meddler” with Susan Sarandon. We recommend it for all moms–but especially for those of us with adult daughters (and sons too, for that matter). We all want the best for our kids, whatever their age, and we probably believe we know a shortcut to getting there–if they will only listen to us!
Well Susan in her role as Mom definitely personifies the meddling mama and it takes almost losing her daughter for her to ‘get’ what she’s doing. I won’t give away the trail she travels because there are some heart-warming details along the way that you’ll want to see for yourself–even if you’re a mother who already knows how to behave with grown children.
One thing I’m learning and polishing in my life is to keep the focus where it belongs–on my own growth and to let my example, rather than my words, do the talking!
Yesterday to my delight I received a text from one of my daughters: “. . . what a gift your mental/emotional/spiritual health is to us.”
So here’s to us moms, aunts, grandmas and good friends of our grown-up kids as we entrust these young and not-so-young men and women to live their lives as they are guided just as we’ve lived ours, mistakes and all.
I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you. Psalms 32:8