It’s Okay to Say, “No.” — 21 Comments

  1. Karen this is such a timely article for me. Thank you so very much for your very clear direction in how to cut through the chaff and to be true to ourselves. What a beautiful way to live. Thank you for your honesty.

    • Thanks, Sandy. I’m glad my ‘share’ was helpful to you. I appreciate your encouragement–always.

  2. Karen, this is so timely. We added two more grandbabies within the last ten days, and (like you noticed) something will have to give. Thanks for giving me permission! 🙂

    • Kristi, congratulations! What fun to have more babies to love and enjoy. Thanks for your encouragement.

  3. Nice reflection, Karen, I’m in a unique situation right now, being away from my family during the week and home on weekends. I am cut off from normal activity, yet being with myself, I find myself doing the same things I do at home and not doing the things I thought I would if I had time to myself. I am seeking to develop myself in new ways during this time and do some of the things I have “waited” to have time to myself to do.

    When I am home, I definitely evaluate what’s most important with my family and friends.

    • Bev, it’s great to hear from you. I pray the Lord will whisper in your ear all that he has for you while away and having time to yourself. May you be well. I miss you.

  4. This is so true, Karen. Even though I know better, sometimes I let myself get dragged into things I don’t want. Periodically I have to retreat and take a good look at my life, and shuffle things around. My daily prayer is, “Lord, put Your desires in my heart so that I want what You want, what You want me to want.” Thank you for reminding me that it’s ok to say “no.” By the way, have you read Julie’s book, “Conquering the Time Factor”?

    • Thanks, Michele. I like knowing I’m not alone in my struggle to say sometimes say ‘no.’ Have not read Julie’s book but it sounds like one we all would benefit from.

  5. Karen, you would think it would be real easy to say “no” since most children the first thing they learn is to say “no”, right? I am sure I was one that was good at saying “no” as a kid. I do struggle sometimes to say no, but I am really going to start working and praying that it will become easier.

    • Thanks for sharing, Mary. It seems we’re all in the same struggle–discerning when to say yes and when to say no. I’m trusting more and more that God will make clear what to say–and when.

  6. Great post, Karen! I’m in that spot right now. Rethinking what our lives should be according to God’s whispers rather than the louder voice that shouts “you should” at me. Even good things that I want to do have to be put aside for better or more-appropriate-for-the-time situations. Technology has made our world move faster than we can keep up and running in the carpool lane doesn’t even cut it these days. I find myself longing for a simple, peaceful life of love and close relationships more and more. Thanks for sharing. It’s encouraging to know others feel the same way.

    • Thank you for your comment, Laura. I’ve been thinking about you lately and wondering how you’re doing. It seems so many of us face similar challenges with our ‘yes’ and ‘no’ responses. May the Holy Spirit guide all of us to that simpler life that focuses on God and our loved ones and inspires us to serve others in a healthy way, which sometimes requires a polite but firm ‘no.’

  7. Thank you for your thoughts. It is had to say no to good things or worthwhile projects. This is a good reminder of what God wants us to
    do to manage our lives in His will.

  8. Karen, I appreciate your comments. Thank you. Those of us, like myself, who love to please others, sometimes forget that in doing so we can be untrue to ourselves and to God. I too am learning to say “no” and it is a process. I want to be able to say “yes” to all God has for me; that requires saying “no” to other things.

    • Hi Carol,
      You explained exactly the reconstructive surgery that the Lord is doing with me. Karen’s article really hit home and so did your reply.
      God bless you.

    • Sandy, I love your description of the reconstructive surgery God is doing in your life. I think that’s true at least of most of us and you said it well. Thanks for your encouragement.

    • Thank you Carol for your reply. God used your comment to give me the courage and determination to stand strong by staying in God’s will. Staying true to ourselves, while we are staying in God’s will brings relief to everyone that we are close to. Even if others may not be happy about what we’ve
      shared, we set a great example of speaking our truth in love. Bless you.

    • Carol, thanks. It’s reassuring to know you and others are in process with this topic, as I am.

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