I have to laugh whenever I read this slogan in my recovery support group. It gets me every time! Because it’s so difficult to keep my hands to myself. 🙂
Like most people I’m certain I have suggestions and ideas for how others can live a more fulfilling life. And when they don’t ask me for my pearl of wisdom I sometimes offer it anyway. Well, I used to do this. Not so much anymore–or if I catch myself adding my two cents (or more) I stop and remember that unless they ask for my input, I need to zip the lip!
Recently I visited with an old friend and she spent most of the time catching me up on her life, her woes, her grown kids’ mistakes, and her upset with her husband and his annoying habits. Whew! That was a lot to listen to. At the end of our time together she took my hand and looked me in the eye.
“It was so nice to be with you,” she said. “And I’m going to think about what you said. I really appreciate your advice.”
I did a double-take. I hadn’t said a word–couldn’t get a word in even if I’d wanted to. It was clear she needed someone to listen to her and so I did. But to her, my listening was good advice. 🙂
When I keep my hands off other people’s everything (unless asked) well I’m a good friend to myself and to others. How cool is that? Now to make it a habit! Well, that’s a story for another time.
“Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business…” (1 Thessalonians 4:11)