Giving Up Shoulda, Coulda, and Woulda! — 8 Comments

  1. Karen, I love this one and appreciate your wisdom in reminding us to ” receive God’s love for us”. It is a ‘free’ gift but I need to remember that a gift is not a gift until we receive it and we cannot share something that we have not received for ourselves. I have had a copy of Brother Lawrence’s book for many years and consider it priceless! I thought of my Dad when I read the words: “Loving God in even the smallest ways, such as sweeping the floor of the monastery kitchen….” because my Dad was the Janitor of one of the churches he served as Pastor. He kept the whole church clean, built the fire in the furnace in the winter months and did a lot of the maintenance. Dad was always available to clean or do anything that needed to be done in the way of maintenance at the all the churches he served. At this church, however, I hasten to say that the reason he accepted the ‘position’ of permanent Janitor is so he could draw Social Security when he retired. At the time ministers were not allowed to draw SS because the churches had not paid into SS. Even tho this was the reason he accepted the position he was always a hummble man and no job was beneath his dignity.
    Thank you for sharing thoughts we should remember !
    Love to you-and tell Charles I like the “quote about Freedom he has near his desk! I think I will share that one a lot !

    • Thanks, Margaret. Your stories from the past are precious. I hope you are keeping them written somewhere to pass on to your children and grandchildren. I really appreciate your faithful reading of my blogs.

  2. Regret is a terrible burden to live with. I long ago recognized the dangers of “should have,” “could have,” and “would have.” They are more than words – they are a destructive frame of mind, an attitude that prevents us from “pressing on to what is ahead.” But it’s so easy to slip back into “the shouldas.” Thank you for this timely reminder to remember the lessons from the past,and to move into the future with confidence because our Creator God will never leave or forsake us! May Gid continue to use your practical, down-to-earth writings to draw others close to Him.

    • Thanks, Michele. I like the bible verse about God never leaving nor forsaking us and yet we seem to forsake ourselves by dwelling on the past with the ‘shouldas.’ I appreciated your kind words about my writing, as well.

  3. Karen,

    I “shoulda” learned this sooner.
    I “coulda” saved myself some heartache.
    I “woulda” been more content with my life at a younger age.

    Thanks for teaching me again!I’ll try to pass it on…

    Smiles, BRC

  4. Karen, thank you so much for the message. It couldn’t have come a better time. I’ve been “shoulda-ing” and kicking myself for quitting my job as a public school teacher while still trying to heal from the trauma, stress and physical ailment that chaotic job caused me … How ironic … I gotta to learn to stop doing it. And I loved your husband’s motto about the fear of freedom because we realize we are responsible for our own life … how wise … and I was so fascinated by your account of Brother Lawrence’s saint life … I decided to amazon the book first before I respond to this widsom-filled comforting message. I just got the book and love reading it … to practice feeling the presence of God… exactly what I need.

    Thank you so very much, for the spiritual nourishment. Love everything you write.

    • Thank you, Jing. I hope Brother Lawrence’s way of life will bless you as it has me.

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